This is a prophetic word that has been a long time coming. I’ve been seeing this now for over 2 years and hint at it here and there but I’ve never written a post specifically about this topic. Why? God told me not to write it. He kept showing it to me and I’ve seen and heard many other prophetic voices talk about this but He told me not to touch it. Until now.
Why? Kairos Time. And, it requires some preparation in order to have this kind of marriage. Now if you are already married I’m not telling you to divorce your spouse so you can have a marriage like this. God can still turn your marriage around.
This post is specifically speaking to the single Christians.
I’ve been seeing in the spirit for over 2 years now, marriages. In the form of hearts over people’s heads, rings over people’s heads, celebration bubbles. But now, it is everywhere! More than I have seen before. So I know that this is happening right now. The atmosphere is ripe with it!
The Lord didn’t want me to talk about this before because there are some words of caution that I needed to share and also some things for you to look for as you are discerning whether or not the person you believe God has for you is actually the right person. This post is for preparation purposes.
First, the bible tells us not the unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14) . That basically means you shouldn’t be marrying an unbeliever. Period. The end.
What is a yoke? A device that goes around the neck of an ox and connects the two together. So wherever they go, you go. Whatever they do, you do. You can’t escape it.
- Doctrinal beliefs can be so different that it can become a problem in your relationship where you have one person soaring in the spirit and the other has no clue what that means. So you end up with a marriage of secrets because the other person “just won’t understand” who you are and what you are really about.
- You can have one person that is completely sold out to doing what the Lord says and the other is a carnal Christian. Living by the dictates of the world and the environment. This can also be a big problem in a marriage.
So it is important to know if the person is interested in full time ministry or not. You need to know where they stand or this person can hold you back in life and cause you not to fulfill the destiny God has for you, all while still being a Christian. We’re not all on the same level and if you know God has called you to a higher purpose and ministry in the kingdom then you can’t just marry someone just because they are a Christian. You’re going to need more than that.
I believe God made many of you wait to see how you would handle the pandemic. You know when we are weak we hold on to what brings us comfort. What did you hold on to? This is an indication of what is going to happen when your marriage hits a speed bump (disagreements and hardship). He clearly showed all of us what our issue was during the last 7 months because He needed us to address it before the promise spouse arrived.
Likewise, when you meet that person you need to find out how they handled the pandemic. What happened when they were squeezed? That’s what’s going to happen when the two of you hit a speed bump.
At the end of this pandemic what’s going happen is some relationship are going to get strong because of it, a lot of babies, a lot of marriages are going to happen and a lot of divorces. Divorce because people saw the worse side of each other. Before, they could escape to work and if they traveled for work they didn’t need to be around that person as much. With the pandemic, they were locked in a house with a caged animal and they discovered they can go no further with that person. There was a lot of abuse, domestic violence, sexual abuse. Yes, a lot of terrible things happened to people during this time.
This is going to be a big disqualifyer for many people and I think God put us in this position so that we would know. So, you need to find out from that person how they handled the pandemic. What happened during those months with their family, friends, if they were in another relationship. Keep your ears open because they will tell you.
The other thing the pandemic did to us is that for some it made them want to get married even more than they did before. This is good for those who were on the fence and God used it to get them thinking about getting married BUT for some it turned marriage into an idol. The pandemic turned on a switch in some people where they HAVE TO get married this year! It is all they think about. This is idolatry.
So let me ask you something, if I told you the Lord said you won’t get married for another 8 – 10 years, how would you feel about that? Be honest.
If that would put you in a tailspin…something is wrong.
It’s OK, I’m going to show you how to fix that.
**Sit down with a piece of paper and write down what you are going to get from the marriage that you can’t wait 8 – 10 years to get. What is the marriage going to bring to your life now? That can’t wait for 8-10 years. Write it down.**
We get prayer requests all the time that sounds like this….please pray for me, I’m in a lawsuit now for 10 years, I just lost my job, I need a place to live because I’m being evicted, pray that God helps me to find my purpose and pray for me to find a spiritual godly wife.
Now if you are a King and you are releasing your daughter into marriage would you let her marry this person?
Or here is another, please pray for me to find a husband soon, my ex boyfriend keeps lurking around, also pray for me to get out of debt, I need another job, I need to get out of where I’m living I keep fighting with my family members
If you are a King and you had a son, a prince, would you let him marry this person?
God is the King and He’s not going to take His Prince and Princesses and put them into a marriage with someone like that. I’m talking about Kingdom Marriages and not just a regular marriage with no purpose.
Kingdom marriages have purpose.
The two shall become one so when you marry a person you merge with them so their problem becomes your problem and vice versa.
Marriage isn’t going to fix your problems. Everything you are looking for is available to you now in Christ. Right now. So you don’t need to wait to fix that. You can start fixing it now with God.
The Lord wants you to come to Him to sort out your problems before you get married. This could be the very reason He hasn’t brought that person into your life yet. You need to sort it out with God, first.
Take your list and one at a time go to God with each thing and ask Him to work on that with you.
Otherwise, you can enter your marriage with unrealistic expectations. Now if the two people that are joined together were looking for their spouse to fix the problem, you have problems x 2. And, there wouldn’t be joy in that relationship but despondency and disappointment.
What is a Kingdom Marriage? One ordained by God for the work of the Kingdom. The truth is most of the stories in the bible of the famous couples were Kingdom connections with the exception of a few Samson and Delilah (unequally yoked sent to kill Samson) and David and Michal (deception sent to kill David, 1 Samuel 18:17-30)
The plan of the enemy in marrying you to the wrong person is to kill you – spiritually and kill your purpose. So it’s really never just an oops I married the wrong person. Nope! It is a complete and total derailment from your purpose with the hope that you never get back on track either from fear of judgment from the body of Christ if you ever divorce from that person or crippling you emotionally so you never get back up. It’s a spiritual attack.
Have you been divorced? It’s your time for the do over!!! You are not condemned! There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. You are not some abandoned building that will just stand there alone. NOPE!
Finding the right spouse then is critical. This is why you can’t just rush into it because you have a timeline in your head that it needs to happen now.
Dynamics of the Kingdom Marriage as it relates to ministry
Which one of you is the one that is called and anointed to do the Kingdom Work? Generally, one is called to the forefront while the other is the support system. There are not many John and Lisa Bevere where the two people have separate ministries that are equally as successful. No, this is not common. Usually it is one person and the marriage partner is the one that supports the other.
Sometimes in marriages it is the woman who is the one anointed by God to reach the masses (Joyce Myer, Beth Moore, Christine Caine) but now imagine if she marries a man who has an ego and refuses to support her ministry. Or his doctrinal beliefs says she shouldn’t be doing that as a woman. Or she’s yoked to a man who is jealous of her calling. Eventually she gives up trying to go against him because she feels like she’s not submitting to her husband. God will still bless their marriage but the Kingdom purposes for that marriage will not be fulfilled. All of the souls that could’ve been won, people healed and delivered is lost. He wants to go to church on Sunday, bible study on Wednesday and that’s it. While she’s thinking about going out an evangelizing and holding worldwide healing conferences. Unequally yoked.
Then you have the flip side of this, he’s a famous pastor and when he gets off that stage he’s surrounded by many people (mostly women) who want to shake his hand. And what is his wife doing? Over in the corner sulking because she’s jealous of all the women around him. She’s quickly ushering him out of the building because she doesn’t want anyone talking to him. She’s mad because he’s traveling all the time. Some wives have a bad attitude and make their displeasure known to the point where their husband gets passed over for speaking engagements, not because of him but because of her. She has a bad attitude and nobody wants to be around her.
I know 3 pastors who are divorced because when God called them into the ministry their wives didn’t want to be a pastor’s wife. The 2nd marriages worked out because from the very beginning they made it known to the new wife what their calling was and what her role was going to be within the ministry. And, yes these are all Christians. How do you know that these men heard correctly from God on their calling? The fruit. They have very large ministries after the divorce winning many souls to Christ. The bible says who God has joined together let no man put asunder. But guess what? It’s not all the marriages you see in the church God has joined together.#Facts
Some people just have a holy displeasure, a restlessness in their soul, when they realize they married the wrong person and their entire purpose and destiny is dead. So they end up divorcing so they can fulfill the purpose God called them to.
There are Christians who are divorced because of ministry
Am I telling people to go get a divorce if they realize they married the wrong person? NO. Again, this post is for the SINGLE Christians (never married, divorced or widowed). It’s a warning to let you know that marrying someone just because they are a Christian is not enough. Especially if you already know what God has called you to do.
Get rid of your marriage timeline and embrace God’s timeline
When you are in a Kingdom Marriage it is not a fleshly relationship it has purpose for God. The reason I am seeing the marriages now more than ever is that we are moving into a new era as a church and God has to send them out “two by two”. He needs a whole new group of couples to fulfill what He has planned for the next generation. If you read the prophetic word for 5781, I spoke about one generation passing on this monument that God was going to create to the next generation. All of this is coming through these marriages. You are not going to have normal children. These are the next generation of church leaders. Therefore, the parents have to be right and grounded in God. Before God destroyed the earth with a flood He had Noah put in the ark couples. He restores through couples. The restoration that will happen after the judgment is going to be done through these couples that He’s putting together now. It is happening! Just imagine how threatened the enemy is by these Kingdom Power Couples. Don’t you think he’s going to work overtime to stop it from happening?
So, he’s going to send many that look good but are not from God. You need to wait and be prayerful through your decisions.
Yes, it is true that God can put a couple together in a very short time and they get married quickly but this is also highly risky and dangerous if it’s not God.
Think about it, you’re going to make a decision in two months that has lifetime consequences?
You can wait. If Jacob can wait 7 years for Rachel, then you can wait too! Well, not 7 years but you get the point. Don’t rush.
Anyone that is in a rush to make a decision that has lasting consequences you need to ask yourself why are they so eager? You need to take your time and do your due diligence. If they can quickly move on to the next person then you were not their kingdom partner you were just a person that was available when they were ready.
Kingdom Men and Women don’t just marry anybody. They know when they found the person. They are already connected to each other spiritually. Their souls are already connected. That’s why you have to break soul ties with anyone that you realize is not the right person for you. We also wrote a prophetic word on ungoldly covenants which will help as well.
Let me show you how deep the connection goes…
26 Then God said, “Let us make human beings in our image, to be like us. They will reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, all the wild animals on the earth, and the small animals that scurry along the ground.”
27 So God created human beings in his own image.
In the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
28 Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”
29 Then God said, “Look! I have given you every seed-bearing plant throughout the earth and all the fruit trees for your food. 30 And I have given every green plant as food for all the wild animals, the birds in the sky, and the small animals that scurry along the ground—everything that has life.” And that is what happened.
So here we see God creates male and female and he tells them to be fruitful and multiply. The only problem with this is that while He was saying all of this the only one that was created physically was Adam. Eve did not show up until Genesis 2:18 – 25.
Don’t you find that interesting? He said let us create male and female told them to be fruitful and multiply but only Adam was created. So where was Eve?
God created only one but spoke to the one as if He was talking the two of them. That is because Eve was inside of Adam.
Eve is inside of Adam.
When the moment is right. Kairos Timing… He takes Eve out from Adam and presents her to him. It’s like one became two and then the two became one.
God is still doing it the same way today. Ladies, you won’t need to position yourself to be seen by your Kingdom spouse. No, that man will know you when he sees you. Why? Because when God created your spouse He already put you inside of him.
There is a recognition in the spirit and soul that this person is already one with you.
Gentlemen, you are going to recognize her. Not just because you’ll be physically attracted to her but she’ll connect with your soul on a level no other woman could. That means you’re going to have so much in common and at the same time have some things different that will help to compliment the relationship and create balance. Because something is missing and not quite balanced until you meet that person.
There is not one woman in the bible that positioned herself to be seen by a man. Not one. She doesn’t need to position herself to be seen because the minute he sees her he recognizes that she is a part of him.
Ruth was following Naomi when she ended up in a field because that’s where Naomi stopped. She didn’t put herself in Boaz’ field because she thought there is a wealthy single man over there let me go show myself so he can choose me. No. She was just doing what she was suppose to be doing. Actually if you read the book of Ruth, Boaz spots her first, he enquires about her first, he was telling people to be kind to her and she didn’t even notice him. It was her meddling mother in law who told her to go lay at his feet. But, he already saw her and liked her. He was just being respectful. All her actions did was confirm that she was interested too. She didn’t convince him of anything. He was already interested from the beginning. He was hesitant because he was much older than her and he was not next in line to marry her. Do you think Ruth was the only single woman in his field? I’m sure there were many! But he recognized something about Ruth that he didn’t see in the others and was willing to jump through hoops to get her.
And, their marriage had a purpose. They are king David’s grandparents.
When you meet your Kingdom spouse you won’t need to convince him of anything he will already know you are the person for him.
This should take all the pressure off of you. Also, with Kingdom couples race or color has no bearing on the relationship. Moses had a black wife and so did Solomon. The entire Song of Solomon is about a black woman and Solomon is not black.
All you need to do is pray for that person, whoever they may be to find you and pray that they stay faithful to God through the process.
I honestly do not believe that you can speed up the marriage process.
Again, going back to Genesis 2:18 – 25, it is God’s timing. God is the one who makes the determination when the two of you should meet. When it’s the right timing God will give the desire for marriage to both and then both become more aware that they are in the season where this is going to happen.
The only thing for you to do is make sure you are where God tells you to be. If you stay in the center of God’s will then you are sure to meet that person one day. If God tells you to leave where you are and move to another place, that’s what you need to do.
I also want to caution you about witchcraft prayers as it relates to marriage. You can’t force someone to marry you through prayers. If a person doesn’t propose to you or if the woman is not interested in you, you shouldn’t force that through prayer. That is witchcraft. Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft and it is basically imposing your will upon another human being. If God didn’t force us to love Him and left it as an act of our free will, how are we going to force another human being to love us? It’s not possible. They either feel that way about you or they don’t.
The only thing you can do is make it known to the person that you like them but you can’t force them to reciprocate by using controlling and manipulative prayers. If you’ve engaged in this then you need to repent as this could be the very thing that is stopping you from meeting the person God has actually ordained for you.
I pray this blesses you and I know I said so much here so you’ll have to come back and reread and digest it.
God loves love.