This prophetic word is titled Forfeiting your destiny. This is part 2 and here is part 1 which you’ll need to read before you read this one.
Be warned, this one is long. I really didn’t want to do a part 3 so I put everything in here. You can always sit and digest each section before continuing.
Who is this for? This post is primarily for the people who believe they may be the first choice and it will also help those who feel like they are stuck and don’t know how to move forward. It will also help those who are walking towards their destiny to not fall into some common traps. There will be a separate teaching on finding your purpose and I’d advise you to get on the mailing list so you don’t miss it when we start.
Meanwhile, back in Berlin the first choice is still unaware that they have forfeited their destiny. For some people it may take them a few weeks to realize something is off, others a few months, some years, even a decade or more. If they went to Berlin for a job when the job doesn’t work out this is when they’ll start realizing it was the wrong choice. If they went there because of a person and ended up getting married it will take a divorce for them to realize they followed a person instead of God.
The easiest way for the devil to get someone off course with their destiny is to have them marry the wrong person.
So what determines how long it takes a person to figure it out? The navigation system aka The Holy Spirit.
I don’t go anywhere without navigation system (Siri). I map out everything (it gives 3 options) and I turn it on from the start of the trip to the end, especially when I have no idea where I am going. In my walk as a Christian, I have no idea where I am going. Therefore I need the navigation (Holy Spirit) DAILY. When you turn off the path too soon or too late, Siri, let’s you know that and gets you back on track very quickly. It will even give you shorter distances if one comes available as you are traveling. Still there are people who don’t use the navigation system. Even when I do know where I am going, I still open Siri and map out the path. Why? I can see from the start of the trip if there is an accident on the path that I usually take. Therefore, what I know as the shortest route may actually be the longest route. Don’t assume that you know even if you have been saved for a long time (Isaiah 55:8-9).
There’s no way you are going to fulfill your destiny by having a third party relationship with God.
You need to check in the with the Holy Spirit everyday. Directly and not through a third party – prophet, pastor, friend. In the morning preferably because He will let you know if you are about to hit some roadblocks and show what alternative routes you need to take. If you develop this habit you are less likely to make mistakes and if you do make a mistake, like we all do, you will get back on track super fast.
(John 15:5) “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. “
By forfeiting your destiny I am not referring to making a mistake. All of us make mistakes. All of us make a wrong turn somewhere whether intentionally or unintentionally. This is not the same as forfeiting your destiny.
I’m saying this now because I don’t want you reading this and having a meltdown because you thought you forfeited your destiny when in fact you didn’t. All you did was make a mistake. This is fixable. I’m going to show you in this post how to discern the difference.
King David made a huge mistake when he should’ve been at war he stayed home, committed adultery with Bathsheba and then had her husband killed. It was a mistake (intentional) and he had to pay the consequences of that sin, his child died and God didn’t talk to him for a year. God went silent until he repented. Even after doing such a horrible thing, he still didn’t forfeit his destiny. (2 Samuel 11 & 12). How did he get back on track? Repentance. There were consequences for the sin and he had to repent for it. If he didn’t repent that is when it would all be over for him. Repentance means you stop completely. It is not the same as being sorry which would be apologizing but then returning to the same thing. There are plenty of people that are sorry for their sin but they are not repentant. God knows the difference.
Problem: You messed up. It’s OK. I don’t think there is one human being that didn’t mess up somewhere. It’s all over the bible. You went off track intentionally or unintentionally and now you are lost, God is not speaking and you have no idea where you stand with your destiny.
Solution: Repent. Turn. Step out of whatever it is you are involved in and ask God to put you back on track. Ask Him to set you on the path towards your destiny again. Then, obey.
Esau on the other hand forfeited his destiny. This wasn’t a mistake he did it on purpose…
29 Once, Jacob was preparing a meal when Esau, exhausted, came in from outdoors. 30 So Esau said to Jacob, “Let me have the whole pot of red stuff to eat—that red stuff—I’m exhausted.” This is why he was called Edom.
31 Jacob responded, “First, sell me your rights as firstborn.”
32 “I’m about to die.” Esau said. “What good is my inheritance to me?”
33 “First, swear an oath,” Jacob said. So Esau swore an oath to him and sold him his rights as firstborn. 34 Then Jacob gave Esau a meal of bread and lentils. He ate and drank, and then he got up and left.
Goodness! He gave it up for food. People give it up for money. For a woman. For a man. For their children. For a job. Because of fear.
Being the first born meant that he inherited everything and he gave it knowing what he was doing…for food. Even though we all know that food is not eternal, he’s going to be hungry again in 2 hours!
Now you may say, was it really that big of a deal? Let me ask you a question, have you ever read anywhere in the bible where it says the God of Abraham, Isaac & Esau? No. It says the God of Abraham, Isaac & Jacob. That’s how important it is when you walk away from your destiny.
The heavens are reverberating with something that has your name on it. The devil is not after you for nothing. YOU are a big deal.
Early in my Christian walk I used to be crippled by the thought that I might “miss it”. Does that ever happen to you? Yes. I used to be so afraid that I would miss God. You know what I think now? You won’t miss God. There’s NO WAY God will allow you to miss the destiny that He has for you. It. Will. Not. Happen.
He will make it abundantly clear and when you are forfeiting it so you are actually going to know what you are doing.
Over a decade ago I made a mistake, not based on disobedience because I truly believed I was following the Lord. However, it turns out I was wrong. I realized that I was off course about 3 months into it. I tried to course correct and that’s easy to do when you are trying to fix a mistake by yourself; however, when others involved – business partners, ministry partners, marriage partners – that is not so easy to do! Because now you have to get others on board with the plan and you all need to agree on the new direction. Otherwise, you are stuck.
I spent MONTHS trying to figure out how I could’ve made such a mistake. Has that ever happened to you? But there was no clear answer on it. So then I asked God what I need to do to get back on track. He told me to hang back, give Him a year, not to interfere, get angry, be quiet, do nothing just step back and He is going to handle it.
Because He said that I thought for sure it was going to sort itself out and everything would be ok. I obeyed and then a year later I went back with this question, “Is this ever going to change?” He said “No, this is how it will always be. There is going to be no change. If you decide to stay in this, I am still going to bless you. I will take care of you and you will be OK. However, you will never achieve the full purpose for which I created you”
Woah! Recapping… I made a mistake, I am aware I made the mistake, but the mistake will not be able to stop my destiny. No, my next choice is what will stop my destiny. Whew! He clearly said, you will not reach your full purpose if you stay here.
I know you may be thinking but I thought God told you He would handle it. Yes, and He did. But remember the whole point of this word is…free will. CHOICES. Did you know that even after knowing the right thing to do people can still choose to do the wrong thing? Even Christian. Even if they went to seminary and are pastors? Yes. But, God in His mercy is patient with us and always allows us time to repent. He gave King David a whole year and when he didn’t repent then he sent the prophet Nathan to confront him about it.
When God went to the other parties involved, revealed the sin and gave them time to change, 1 year and they refused. So at the end of the year He told me basically that the ball was in my court to do what I wanted to do. I was free to choose. Staying there meant I forfeited my own destiny.
Somebody needs a course correction!
The truth is the only thing that would cause me to remain there is the fear of man. What are people going to think? So and so is going to be so disappointed if I walk away. I’ve already invested so much time and money in this. I don’t want to start all over again. It would be so much easier to just stay here, after all God did say He would take care of me. This was a huge “egg on my face” moment and the devil was using the fear of man to get me to not back out of it. A whole bunch of people was going to be talking about this. Woman of God, claims she can hear God clearly and ends up in a mess like this? How is that??? There was going to be a lot of chatter.
Sigh. So what did I do? Say this with an attitude >>>> I Ain’t No Esau!<<<<<< LOL ROFL
I had my first heavenly encounter years later and when I saw what God really had in store I don’t regret it one bit. I cried realizing what I would’ve forfeited if I let the devil talk me into 2nd best.
My goodness. Don’t you EVER settle. There is MORE.
If you need to start over, then start over. It doesn’t matter how old you are. What you don’t want to do is walk away from your destiny because you’re scared of what people will say. Let them talk. They will be speaking to your BACK as you walk towards your destiny!
Say it for the people in the back… My name is __________, it is not Esau! LOL
Keep moving forward.
I’m sure you read this scripture many times but now look at how differently you will see it…
Mark 4:20 Others, like seed sown on good soil, hear the word, accept it, and produce a crop—some thirty, some sixty, some a hundred times what was sown.”
I believe most of us think good soil always produces 100%. This is not true. There are many out there with good soil that will still only produce 30%. Having good soil doesn’t guarantee 100 fold return.
Your soil can be good and you’re still not producing.
It’s the little decisions. Choices. Compromises. What if I decided I was not going to create any waves and stay in that situation? I would’ve immediately given up the 100 fold return. I would drop down to 80. The minute the devil realizes that I am willing to compromise to “save face” or because of fear of man he will immediately go after the 80 fold and chip that away to 60. This is how it works. You keep compromising and you’ll be lucky to make it to 10 fold return!
I would still have this ministry but the effectiveness of it and the fruit would not be there. It would be a shell. It looks good on the outside but it’s not producing anything. When the devil can’t stop the destiny watch out for him to go after your fruit and slow down your production. Partial forfeiture. The Lord produced so much more in me and through me after this mistake than before.
John 15 “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. 2 He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.”
When He starts cutting away your mistakes or the leeches, don’t hang on to it.
Pruning is not fun. When you start to get pruned and you surrender to it that means you are getting ready to be fruitful. Every year, you should be able to see how much you’ve grown compared to the year before. Not by looking at other people but by looking at yourself… year over year. You should be getting better and not worse.
I wasted several years but I got back on track by submitting to the pruning. As for what was lost during those years that I was off course, here’s the prophetic word that relates to that.
The word says ALL things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and are of the called according to His purposes. So even in your mistakes, you are still moving forward when you go after God’s purposes for your life. Not your purpose, His purpose.
What if you really did forfeit it? He gave it to the 2nd choice.
Are you sure? ASK. You losing your destiny doesn’t mean you lost your salvation. It does mean that God’s best for you was missed but there are other things that He can have you do. The people in the bible continued living, they had a normal life after that. You just won’t get it back. You still have your calling so ask Him what He has in store for you now. He will direct you to the 2nd option. But you still need to obey or you can forfeit that too.
This, is why I am so big on people getting discipled because there are some things we should’ve been told when we came to know Jesus. This is one of them. Get Discipled!
Forfeiting destiny because you thought you had more time
I believe one of the most prevalent ways people miss their destiny is they have no concept there is a timeline associated with it. When people get a prophetic word on something they believe it will live forever and that is not true. It has timing associated with it.
Start asking God for timeline on your prophetic word. I wrote something before about knowing when you are getting close to the fulfillment of a prophetic word and you can read that here.
Always remember there are people on the other end of your obedience waiting for you. They can’t move forward until you move forward. Destinies connecting to other destinies. In my story, they were given 1 year to fix it. Did they know they had a year? I don’t think they did. I believe they thought I was going to sit there forever. They mistook my patience for acceptance.
When they didn’t fix it, I had a 2nd option. God gave me permission to leave there. I couldn’t leave until God said I could leave. If I moved prior to the 1 year, I would be wrong. Timing. Sometime you move too fast other times you are moving too slow (1 Samuel 13:5-14, 2 Kings 13:15-20). I knew God backed me up when I left, not because I waited a year and then I left. No, because I took the time to ask Him AGAIN. Consult with the navigation system. You can’t fulfill your destiny without Jesus.
You can’t drag your feet and think God is going to wait for you forever. Other people’s destiny are tied to your obedience. If you don’t move God will give it to the 2nd choice.
Forfeiting destiny because of your marital status
This is a marital status: Single, Married, Divorce
Your destiny is not your marital status. Let me say it like this, if you think for some reason you can’t fulfill your destiny because you are single, you are wrong.
I’ll say it like this, if you think that because you are in a bad marriage you can’t fulfill your destiny, you are wrong.
It is a marital status. You alone are enough. Because your destiny is your purpose and that is tied to you, not your marital status.
Single people have destinies. Married people have destinies. Divorce people have destinies. Single parents with children have destinies. It’s a status it is not your destiny.
People in bad marriages have destinies so if you feel that you can’t do it because your marriage is terrible, you are wrong.
It’s just a status. You are more than your marital status.
You know there’s this teaching going on in the YouTube community that goes like this “your marriage is your ministry”. Hmmm
First time I heard it, I stopped. I pondered it because it bothered me and I didn’t know why. You see, the statement is somewhat true. But it still bothered me. And, I asked the Lord why does this statement bother me and it took me awhile to unpack it. So here’s the deal…
When you say your marriage is your ministry is sounds like the marriage is the end goal. Like you were somehow created and your destiny/purpose/mission is to be married. Like you have no ministry unless you are married. It’s like saying your children are a ministry…and they are! But what if you have no children???? What happens when you get a divorce? Does your ministry end until the next “ministry”(remarriage) comes along? What happen when you get old and your spouse dies? Is your ministry over? So you lived your entire life for your spouse???
Ponder it for a second.
It reeks of idolatry.
It is a status it is not your destiny. That is it. There is nothing wrong with you having a desire to be married. But your desire is not your purpose. Do not turn it into an idol or you may actually miss your destiny. As you sit there waiting to be married meanwhile God has called you to do something NOW…while you are single.
And if for some reason what you are called to do is tied to your spouse, don’t you think that He will make that happen right as you are at the doorway to step into it? Of course He will! But you shouldn’t be chasing the marriage. Chase the destiny.
I’m trying to help you fix your mindset. Just in case this is where you are stuck.
Do you understand that you destiny and your spouses destiny can be two different things? You can have one calling and your husband has another. The two of you can work in ministry together and the two of you can actually have SEPARATE calling. You are an individual. You are enough, by yourself! Your relationship with Christ and your spouse’s relationship with Christ are two separate things.
God is going to call you to do one thing and your spouse to do another. When the two of you became one, one person’s destiny doesn’t cancel out the other. It’s like the Trinity – Three in One but each One have their own purpose. They are separate. I want to make sure you understand what I am saying here.
Everyone in the bible had their own destiny and it had nothing to do with marriage.
What was Esther’s destiny? It was not to marry the king. It was to save the Jewish people from annihilation. God needed to get her into the palace to do it. God changed her marital status so she could fulfill her destiny because it was necessary.
Did Deborah’s husband have anything to do with her destiny? No. He’s mentioned once, just to say who she was married to and never again. What she did has nothing to do with him.
What is Jonah’s wife’s name? Nobody knows! Was he even married? Nineveh was only waiting for him, not the wife.
The twelve disciples, name the wives…we know Phillip was married and Peter too. But their wives were not a part of their destiny.
This is an individual thing between you and the Lord. When your marital status is a necessary part of you fulfilling your destiny, then God will make sure that things line up so that it happens.
Mary couldn’t be roaming about as a teenage girl with a pregnant belly. So, Joseph had to be in place. And just to emphasize the precision of God, Joseph was told at the last minute because he couldn’t consummate the marriage until after Jesus was born (Matthew 1:18-25). So trust God to do what is necessary to make sure you fulfill the destiny if it requires a spouse to be in place. But you have to walk towards your destiny. You can’t sit there waiting to be married, that is not your destiny…it’s a desire.
….seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these will be added unto you.
….delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.
Please do not sit around waiting for the desire. Ask God about your destiny, your purpose and get busy with that.
If you are married right now and your marriage is a hinderance to your destiny, God will fix that. One way or the other. However, please do not sit there waiting for the person to leave. Do what God is calling you to do, today. Now.
Mary’s purpose was not to marry Joseph, it was the be the mother of Jesus. Which leads to the next point…
Your children can also be your destiny
Yes, we all have a purpose. But, some of us have a much higher calling in the Lord. As a result, when God reveals to you that it is your child that He’s giving that high calling you need to take this very seriously. All children are important but you cannot deny the fact that God does make a selection for some children over others. From the beginning of the bible He has been selecting people.
I know we say as parents that we love all our children the same but I think some of you already know that you may have that one child and you know that is the one that God has called to do something spectacular for the Kingdom. You can have two and the calling on each of them is diffferent.
Some people are married to their spouse not because of them but because of the child they will produce together.
For Mary, her destiny was Jesus having Him and being the mother to Him that she needed to be.
For Hannah, it was Samuel.
For Elizabeth it was John the Baptist.
For Bathsheba it was Solomon.
I believe if you are called and your destiny is to have a child like this, God may tell you about it even before you meet your spouse. You will know ahead of time because He wants you to be aware so that you handle that very special child carefully.
All of these women (except Elizabeth, I think) had other children. But it was the one child that was called to something special.
For these types of children, Sunday church is not enough. You can’t leave the raising of these kids to the pastor and the teacher at school. No, this is your destiny so you have to be very hands on with them. You have to take the leadership role as the mother and father to make sure the child reads the bible, knows how to pray, knows how to hear from the Lord, they are operating in their spiritual gifts and they are encouraged to use them. They have the proper mentorship and training to step into their calling. You have to focus for the years in which you have them to make sure that they are well rounded individuals grounded in the word of God. You can’t forfeit this destiny to social media, television or the babysitter. Even the grand parents. Nope. This has to be your primary job. Only you know what God revealed to you about them.
Just watch how the royal family treats the first born child to get a clue on what I am talking about here. They are treated completely different from the other kids. Only you know how this will translate in your own home.
Forfeiting our destiny because we don’t cooperate with the calling, lack of use.
I met this gentleman while back and immediately I could tell that he was called to be one of the financiers of the Kingdom. I mean that anointing was so strong on him it was undeniable to me that this is what he was going to be called to do. I prophesied this over him and he told me that this has been prophesied to him before and he was sure this would happen.
Several months after I initially met him he asked me if I thought there was anything he needed to do to step into this because while he was making good money he knew he had not yet tapped into his full potential. Somehow he would get close but things would always fall apart at the last minute. My first thought was, are you tithing? He said tithing was old testament and he doesn’t believe in that. I said what about giving to the church? Do you do offerings, donations, what do you give when you go to conferences? He said he already pays for the conference ticket so he doesn’t see why he needs to give them money. Hmmm Then he proceeds to tell me that he doesn’t believe in giving money to the church like that and most of these pastors are only after your money…Hmmm.
Bottom line, he doesn’t give.
I said to him, how are you going to be a Kingdom financier when you don’t even give money to the church? I brought him to the Malachi 3 scriptures, you know the one, and I told him that he needed to start giving. And not just pocket change when he’s in church but to start actually giving the 10% to his church plus offerings and donation to ministries that are helping him. That through this simple obedience he will begin to activate or unlock his destiny. So he says “ok, since the scripture says to test it, I’m going to test it”
Off he goes to donate! About 4 months later he comes back and says to me it worked the first 2 months but then after that he didn’t see a return on his money. He actually made less money in month 3 so he stopped giving. And, then he proceeded to blame ME for making him give all that money to the church and now there’s an investment property he wants to buy and if he had just kept that money he would’ve been able to pay for that house almost cash. He blamed me for making him give money to the church. All I can say is, thank God at that time I didn’t have a donation button on this site so he couldn’t say I just said this to get him to give me the money. Can you imagine?
Tell me, how is he going to be the kingdom financier when God can’t even get him to give the church money? It’s never going to happen. Years later he’s still waiting for that destiny to happen. Will he be successful in business? Yes, because this is his calling. Will he be a kingdom financier of $1M? No. That destiny will never happen because he’s not a giver. His destiny will get passed to 2nd choice.
You can’t have a Joseph or a Solomon Anointing/Mantle and destiny and be a selfish person. Both of these call for you to be a giver. These callings are for people who are generous. They don’t give begrudgingly! Joseph was a manager and a distributer so you can’t be selfish and walk in that anointing, it won’t work. Even when Joseph was in prison he gave. He could interpret dreams and so he gave that! Once he’s promoted to a level where he had other resources and finances, then he starts giving that. He was a good steward of the little that he had. This gentleman crippled his own destiny because of his attitude towards money. He was not cooperating with his destiny. He was happy to hear the prophesy because it meant he would be rich but the thought of giving away his wealth was a problem for him.
If you are called to be a prophet you have to prophesy. You need to put yourself in a position to prophesy to others. You can’t be an evangelist that just likes talking to people but you don’t share the gospel of Jesus Christ. You can’t be a teacher if you fill your head with knowledge by reading books, get a PhD but you never teach others. It’s like the dead sea things go in but nothing is coming out. You have to cooperate with the calling. You have to use it.
You won’t ever get to the fullness of what God has for you until you use what you have now…
1 Peter 4:10-11
10 Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. 11 If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.
Once you determine what you gifts are, use them. When you recognize the calling, start walking in it. That is the only way you step into destiny. You literally COLLIDE with destiny as you are using and doing what God has given you to do. You cannot miss it.
You don’t get saved today, find out your gift tomorrow, step into your calling the next day and by the end of the week start walking in your destiny. No. There is a whole process involved in getting you ready. You have to use it so you can become mature in it. You get better with use.
14 But solid food is for the mature, whose spiritual senses perceive heavenly matters. And they have been adequately trained by what they’ve experienced to emerge with understanding of the difference between what is truly excellent and what is evil and harmful.
It doesn’t happen overnight. It starts with simple acts of obedience. Stewarding the little that you have today and as you are faithful with that God starts giving you more to do. One step at a time.
I pray that you got something out of this. That it has helped to clarify your calling and your destiny.
Remember your calling is irrevocable but your destiny is revocable because of your free will. Choose wisely.
I’m going to do a whole teaching on finding your purpose and destiny for those who don’t know where to start. It will take me sometime to put it together because there are different components to this. And, it’s not a simple prayer and them boom! You’ve found your destiny! No. This takes time. It’s your lifetime. So I want to put it together with the Lord and then I’ll probably do it in conjunction with the Glory to Glory School. Until then, you can’t fulfill your destiny without a relationship with Jesus so pray and read your bible.
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