The Christmas and New Year season is a time of year when loneliness, depression
and sadness can take root in the lives of Christians.
We know by the word of God that we shouldn’t feel this way but we are human and it can and will happen if we don’t take the necessary steps to guard our hearts and mind.
Those who suffer from loneliness may be single, those who are widowed, divorced, those who have lost a loved one, the empty-nester and sometimes even married people. That covers just about everyone!
What can we do as Christians during this time to guard our thoughts and feelings from negative emotions? Well, let’s look at some practical steps.
Go To Church – This would not be the time to attend Bedside Baptist or Living Room Episcopal through your computer or television. You need to go to church. Get in a community with others who have similar interests. Many of us start out in our relationship with God being CEO‘s – Christmas and Easter Only. Well, it’s Christmas! Do a search on the internet for area churches and attend one. If you are already involved in a church perhaps you will consider inviting someone to church who may be struggling with loneliness during this Christmas Season.
Pray - We know that prayer works! Pray about your situation and leave the rest to the Lord. He will work everything out, no matter how difficult the case may be, for your own good (Romans 8:28)
Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Help someone else – Doing volunteer work during the Christmas and New Year season is a great way to take your mind off your situation and becoming the hands and feet of Jesus by helping others. Volunteer at your church, baby sit for a couple, get involved in making holiday baskets, put together Christmas shoe boxes for underprivileged children with Samaritan’s Purse. You can also invite others over to your house for dinner to share the holidays with you.
Matthew 25:31-45 ‘Come, you blessed of My Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: for I was hungry and you gave Me food; I was thirsty and you gave Me drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in; I was naked and you clothed Me; I was sick and you visited Me; I was in prison and you came to Me.’“Then the righteous will answer Him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink? When did we see You a stranger and take You in, or naked and clothe You? Or when did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to You?’ And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me.’ “Then He will also say to those on the left hand, ‘Depart from Me, you cursed, into the everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels: for I was hungry and you gave Me no food; I was thirsty and you gave Me no drink; I was a stranger and you did not take Me in, naked and you did not clothe Me, sick and in prison and you did not visit Me.’
“Then they also will answer Him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not minister to You?’ Then He will answer them, saying, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to Me.’
Meditate on Scripture – Meditating on the word of God will guard your mind from falling into depression and fill you with the joy of Christ so that you will be able to enjoy the Season. The word will strengthen you and give you hope as you meditate on it.
Romans 10:17 - Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ.
Psalm 119:28 – My soul is weary with sorrow; strengthen me according to your word.
Psalm 119:148 – My eyes stay open through the watches of the night, that I may meditate on your promises.
Psalm 119:81 – My soul faints with longing for your salvation, but I have put my hope in your word.
Psalm 119:43 – Never take your word of truth from my mouth, for I have put my hope in your laws.
Psalm 130:5 I wait for the LORD, my whole being waits, and in his word I put my hope.
Find an activity that you enjoy and keep yourself busy – Sitting at home worrying about your situation will not make things better and will only lead to negative thoughts and depression. Is there a hobby that you have considered starting? Perhaps you’ve wanted to learn how to cook or go rock climbing? Now would be the time to start that activity. Don’t be idle! Use Jesus as an example – He was either praying, teaching His disciples or helping others. He never sat around idle and focusing on his singleness. Being idle will get you in trouble.
Ecclesiastes 11:6 – Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening let your hands not be idle, for you do not know which will succeed, whether this or that, or whether both will do equally well.
1 Timothy 5:13 -… they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to.
Here is a prayer for you:
Abba Father, as your child I come to You asking that You fill every empty place within me. Fill the void in my life that is there because of __________. I ask that You would guide me through Your Scriptures so that I may hear directly from You on this matter. I pray as Samuel prayed that You “Speak Lord for your servant is listening”. I ask that until You take this loneliness away You help me to glean every lesson possible from this present place. Protect my mind from self centered thoughts and cause me to focus on the many blessings that You’ve given me. Help me to focus on the fact that Jesus is my friend, my brother, my husband and my father. He is my provider and the One who takes care of all of my needs according to Your glorious riches. He is the healer of the broken-hearted. He is the greatest Christmas gift that I could ever receive. I thank You for my salvation and I pray that I would be Your hands and feet during this season to bring You to others. In Jesus Name, Amen.